By: Toni Crawford

I know you may have heard this question before, Can a guy and girl be friends/besties and not catch feelings? I took a poll imposing this question and 100% said no. I believe that some guys and girls can be friends/besties and not catch romantic feelings but the keyword is, some. When I was single, I was friends with a few guys and I caught romantic feelings for some of them but I wasn’t the type to approach a guy and say listen, I like you. I would just remain silent, while waiting for the guy to make a move. However, there was this one guy in College that was not only handsome but different and we begin to build a friendship. I was smitten by him, the more I hung out with him. I was so close to telling him I like him but I notice he had his eyes on another girl that eventually became his girlfriend. I was upset but I held my tongue and our friendship begin to fade. I was the 3rd wheel.

Why did our relationship fade? Well, I guess she took up more of his time and I knew I couldn’t pretend like I was happy about him choosing her instead of noticing me. I felt like I was a catch and was hoping he could see that. So, I stepped back and even though we would have a few conversations once in a while we eventually lost connection.  Until a few years later, one day, he was on my mind. That same day, I spotted my old phone book and saw his name and number and was curious to see if my friend number was the same, so I called and it was. We had a lot of catching up to do.

A few months later, while walking at night around Penn’s Landing, my friend, who eventually became my bestfriend, expressed his feelings for me and then the fire works went off. No, seriously, fireworks went off. I thought he planned that, but someone near by decided to set off fireworks. That was cool. I was so happy that he finally saw me but I also prayed about us because I didn’t want my time wasted like my last relationship that lasted on and off for 3 years, that lead to nothing but a puddle of tears and inconsistency. What’s crazy, is that we both admitted to each other, how we tried not to like each other. Well, to make a long story short, we are married and have been married for two years now.

In closing, sometimes, keyword: sometimes, a friendship is designed to be more. Pray if you have feelings for your friend/bestie and let God lead.

“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. -Mark 10:9